Have you ever tried to help someone and they just keep giving you excuses on why something is not working for them? You try to give them suggestions and every direction you seem to go they have an answer for you. My job is to help my clients achieve a healthy lifestyle. Help them make better decisions and ultimately arriving at their goals. There are so many desired goals in life that are really wanted by all of us. Lets face it, we all would not turn down a chance to have the perfect fit body, a few million dollars in the bank, the ability to travel whenever we would like, and the perfect relationship to top it off. Everyone one of these goals requires dedication and sacrifice. Are we willing to sacrifice the things that we enjoy for the things that we desire? If those goals are not important enough to you, your immediate desires will prevent you from ever getting there.
If you really want something (and have realized this however many years you have been trying to get there), you MUST drop every excuse that comes in your way. You must build up the desire strong enough so that excuses don’t even enter your mind. Where there is a will, there is a way. If you want something bad enough you will work on it every second of the day until it is done. Most of the time it is not going to be pretty, fun, or exciting but your journey is not your goal.
In a world where instant gratification is what we are accustomed to, realize that you are going to have to be uncomfortable for a little while. The ultimate goal will be well worth your persistent effort. Kick your excuses to the curb and keep going, you got this!
We have all been there at the peak of our decisions. We are all excited and motivated to start working out and eating healthy. Week one we roll into our workout with this new found determination that helps us get out of bed. After week one we are super sore, but still plugging through because you have been challenged (and you refuse to back down and look like a punk). Halfway through your 30 day challenge, you start hearing voices in your head….
“you deserve a break, you have worked so hard these past two weeks.”
“You’ve already missed Monday, so just start over next week.”
“You didn’t have time to get to the grocery store this weekend so just eat what you have in the house and you can get all the fruits and veggies tomorrow.”
Did you know all these “excuses” push your goals back further and further away? I know it is hard to change your habits because it takes consistency. It also requires you to think (or rewire your thinking). We typically have a pattern of the way we do things everyday. Changing habits require us to change our patterns. It takes practice, but it can be done. It starts with your brain. If we “assume” that exercise is part of our everyday routine than it will get done. If you give yourself the option, it most likely will be brushed off to the side because it messes with your “routine”.
Think of your new way of living like road construction. It is a lot of work initially to construct, but once the road is paved it is so much easier to get to where you are going. Lifestyle change is the “construction” process. Stick through it and put the work in initially to create and easy journey when it is finished. Know that the construction phase will be hard, expect it, push through it, and make it to the finish. Roadblocks will come (no pun intended) but expect those and keep your eyes on the prize. You got this!
Happy Hump Day!
If you have ever started a fitness program, you know that motivation is the key to sticking with it. Some days are easier than others when it comes to working out. If your program calls for 3 days a week, be careful. This can sabotage you in the long run because it allows you for too many “extra” days. You may find yourself putting off your workouts because you can just “make it up” the next day. Instead, aim to exercise daily so that it becomes who you are. It is so much easier to set aside 30-60 minutes on a daily basis then have a 3 day program that is scattered all over the place. This also helps it become established as a routine faster. Results come faster too and we all know that will keep you motivated more than anything else. So get out there and exercise daily! It doesn’t matter if is a walk or a full blown boot camp workout in the gym . Move everyday!
As I sit and design these 5am workouts starting on May 22nd thoughts are running through my head about everyone that has heard about our new program. Some are super excited and others look at me and say “you are crazy to wake up that early!”
Let’s get real, those of us with kids and job responsibilities know what happens after work. Nothing is consistent. Sometimes you have practices to bring the kids too and sometimes you have a networking event. Other times you have company that is visiting who requires your attention. When you think of these things, a 5 am workout is the only thing that wouldn’t get interrupted by all of these things. If you don’t have time, make it! Create an uninterrupted hour in your day to complete your workout. If exercising after work has worked for you and been consistent there is no need to change your routine, but if you are one of those who struggles with consistency the early morning time may be the only option for you. We all need to exercise, we know it is god for us. Does it take discipline? Of course, but it can be done and you may find that it is something you should have tried a long time ago.
When I worked at large gyms in the past, there would be so many people waiting at the door before we opened. Now that I have kids and more responsibilities, I realize why. If you struggle with a consistent schedule, take a look at your priorities and see where you can fit this important puzzle piece in.
As I sit here and try to think about my blog for the day a question pops in my head. “What does it take to get real results?” If I were to sum up success I would only use two words ACTION and REPETITION. Motivation is the initial start to action. Some of us get stuck with the running engine but do not actually put the car in drive and go. Think of your goals as a destination you are heading to. Initially you are excited to get there, but you know it’s a long drive. You aren’t going to arrive with excitement only. You have to actually put your car in motion and drive one mile at a time until you arrive. Some will just start their cars, some will put it in drive and go halfway and quit, and those who end up successful are those that drive the entire route (you may get stuck in traffic, end up with a flat tire, or run out of gas). Whatever happens, the successful person keeps fixing whatever goes wrong along the way and keeps going.
So whatever goals you have, know that there will be challenges and roadblocks but whatever happens just readjust and keep driving! Don’t do something a few times and get frustrated. Stop quitting and restarting over and over again (this take so much more effort!). Stay consistent and know it’s about repetition. Do it until you stop thinking about it. Your destination is worth the effort, otherwise you would never had desired it in the first place.
I saw a post from a trainer in DC this morning on Instagram that said
“Some people want to use exercise as a punishment for being overweight. They don’t realize that their diet is delivering the real punishment.”
This can’t be further from the truth and what I preach all the time. You can’t out exercise a bad diet. It also makes your workouts so much harder when you do not eat to nourish your body. Why would you want to punish yourself twice? When you eat well, you feel well, and when you feel well you WANT to exercise. It is so hard to motivate yourself on a bad diet. So make sure that you keep your diet clean and energizing so your fit lifestyle will just fall into place. Otherwise it will stay a constant mind battle.
Life happens, and everyday is not a carbon copy of the last. I’ve owned a fitness studio for over 9 years now and seen all kinds of people come and go. There are some that are here everyday no matter what and others that sprinkle in every once in a while. With those that are the most consistent, what is it that keeps them coming everyday? Do they have less going on in their lives? Absolutely not! Now don’t get me wrong, tragedies happen which cause our lives to come to a halt and things get put on the back burner for a minute or two. Those that are the most consistent make fitness a part of who they are. These people have fitness as a habit so it gets worked into what ever they have going on. Work, family, friends, and relationships all have an effect on our schedules EVERYDAY. It’s up to you how you let it affect your routine. Are you going to stop brushing your teeth because your child is sick? I would venture to say that’s a no. Why? Because your teeth are important and you wouldn’t even think about skipping it because it is a habit. What other habits do you have that won’t quit in times of uncertainty? That answer is totally up to you. Write out your priorities today and view them (and do them) on a regular basis until they become a part of who you are. That’s when you will become one of those people who never quits.